Relationship Counselling

Does any of the following sound familiar?

"I love my partner, I just don't know if I'm still "in love" with him (her)"
"We just seem to have the same fight over and over and never get anywhere"
"She (he) never listens to my point of view. Our communication is awful"
"Our sex life is non-existent; we're like pleasant roommates who have no real connection"
"My partner (or I) have had an affair"
"We can't agree on anything - how to keep the house clean, how to spend/save our money, how to raise the kids..."
"I didn't think finally finding someone that I loved would end up feeling like this"

Feeling disconnected in our intimate relationships can have a powerful impact on all other areas of our lives, and awaken some of our deepest fears and insecurities. We may have a difficult time managing our own heightened emotional state - let alone responding (rather than reacting) to our partner - and find ourselves either shutting down or defending ourselves by ruminating on the many ways our partner is a disappointment.
In relationship counselling, it is the relationship (rather than the individuals in that relationship) that is the client. My focus in therapy is to get to know that relationship; when it works (or used to work), when and how it disconnects, and what it wants or needs.

Relationship counselling is aimed at helping couples move:

From alienation to emotional engagement
From self-protection to risk-taking
From defensiveness to openness
From focusing on flaws to sharing fears and longings
From isolation to connectedness
From blaming to understanding